Saturday, May 27, 2023
HomeLifestyleEpisode #184: Adorning the Exterior of Your Home

Episode #184: Adorning the Exterior of Your Home

This week, we’re speaking about the best way to make the exterior of your private home appear and feel as cozy as the within of your private home. Plus, we now have a listener query about the best way to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing the job proper.

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Present Notes:


Entrance Door: 

Home windows:

Porch Concepts:

  • Wraparound porch
  • Get a swing or daybed swing 
  • Put out slightly desk and chairs
  • Use string lights
  • Put in a hearth
  • Add a TV



  • See what blooms your first yr
  • Perform a little bit at a time

Again patio:



  • Have it match the persona of your private home
  • Take a look at Emma’s mailbox magnet


  • Plan forward
  • Everlasting Christmas lights
  • Print out an image of the outside of your own home and draw out your plans

Listener Query:

What are your suggestions, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with contractor points, particularly as ladies? 

  • Learn Elsie’s weblog about Suggestions for Hiring a Contractor
  • Preserve bothering them
  • Give your self a pep speak afterward
  • Ask your loved ones and buddies for his or her opinions

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Episode 184 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation hear. This week we’re speaking about the best way to make the skin of your private home appear and feel as cozy as the within of your private home. Plus, we now have a listener query about the best way to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing their job proper. My favourite topic. Okay, so somebody DMed me and so they mentioned, that is so cute. I can’t cease enthusiastic about it. So at our new home in Missouri, they mentioned that they used to dwell type of subsequent door to it or one thing. And that at one level within the Nineteen Nineties, they noticed an enormous marriage ceremony hosted there within the yard. It was proper after our Father of the Bride episode got here out. And so they simply needed to inform me and so they mentioned it was actually magical. It had lights, it had tents, it had all of the issues and I want I may see it. I like the concept of nonetheless throwing some type of, it doesn’t need to be a marriage, however some type of large social gathering there. Possibly a marriage, possibly one thing else sometime, nevertheless it made my coronary heart really feel so many issues.

Emma: That’s so cute. That’s the sweetest DM ever. You additionally haven’t proven the home very a lot so I completely consider that they did dwell subsequent door cuz to ensure that them to have the ability to like, acknowledge it from what you have got shared they need to actually know this home. 

Elsie: Yeah. The neighborhood, everybody type of is aware of after I was strolling across the neighborhood final time, I used to be there, Each single person who talked to me was like, so that you’re transferring into that home?

Emma: It’s a close-knit space. 

Elsie: Yeah. So anyway, this episode is all about adorning the outside of your private home. I’m so excited to do ours. So I like the best way that exterior appears to be like, however I believe it has much more potential that may be unlocked. And I positively suppose yours as effectively. So Emma’s home, she’s at present doing her exteriors, like portray, renovation, and stuff. And he or she has an enormous yard that she’s saving for later, so I can’t wait to see what you bounce into that ultimately, like what you do of it. 

Emma: Yeah, so we are able to speak about paint as a result of really as we’re recording this, we have been purported to get our brick lime washed this week, nevertheless it didn’t work out as a result of they need to have three days of no rain in order that the paint can remedy correctly. And this week it was type of on and off within the forecast of slightly little bit of rain. So we’re hoping for subsequent week, however this time of yr it rains on and off pretty continuously, so it may even be one other month, who is aware of? However I’m very excited when it does occur as a result of we now have a largely white, home, however then we now have slightly little bit of brick, and so we’re gonna get that lime washed. So lime wash, it could possibly imply numerous various things. So for us, what we’re wanting is the place you type of see the brick slightly bit. You continue to see that there’s pink brick underneath there. It’s nearly type of like a cloudy look. It’s very cottage core, shabby stylish, it’s type of that type of factor. And for us, we don’t have tons of brick. It’s not the entire home, so it’s type of gonna be an accent. So I really feel prefer it’s gonna be a pleasant juxtaposition with the white siding we now have, which appears to be like fairly plain and boring, simply being sincere. It’s like fairly boring. So I really feel like this may give it type of one thing. In the mean time, it’s similar to very pink brick and it’s just a bit an excessive amount of visible distinction for my eyes, and likewise inform you it simply doesn’t actually appear to have any fashion. So I’m very excited for this lime washing. However once more, may have occurred this week, didn’t occur due to the climate. We’ll see. I’m hoping for subsequent week. Might even be a month although. Who is aware of? 

Elsie: So portray brick, it’s positively a regional factor. So the place I grew up in Missouri, I believe persons are type of beginning to do it now slightly bit extra, however individuals used to actually villainize and it’s positively a cold and hot matter, however there’s lots of people who suppose that it’s like actually dangerous to color a brick house.

However after I moved to Nashville, I used to be seeing it in every single place. Simply everybody paints their brick houses right here, it’s very extraordinarily widespread. In order that was what gave me the braveness to do it for the primary time. After which after that, I by no means turned again, I paint a brick house on a regular basis now. On my first two homes, I painted them with standard latex paint. Within the final home that we painted, we used Roman bio paint, which is a non-toxic, environmentally pleasant mineral paint. And the factor that’s cool about it’s that lots of people will say you shouldn’t paint homes as a result of then the brick can’t breathe, and with this paint, it’s like portray brick with a layer of white brick. So it’s the identical materials and your own home can nonetheless breathe. So it lasts longer, it’s extra sustainable. The factor that’s powerful about it although, is it’s tougher to discover a painter who desires to make use of that materials as a result of it’s not as widespread. So anyway, I’ll hyperlink that within the weblog, if anybody’s curious. However yeah, I believe that portray a home is among the greatest issues you are able to do for curb attraction, I like to recommend it. So the pink home is a wooden home, possibly it’s wooden siding, I’m unsure, after which our new house is sort of a clapboard home, so it’s wooden. In order that they’re each painted already and part of proudly owning these homes is that it’s a must to hold them painted and sustain with it. It’s an vital a part of the upkeep of proudly owning a woodhouse. So with our pink home, we determined to do an announcement shade as a result of initially, it matches into the neighborhood. There have been already numerous homes within the neighborhood that had slightly little bit of shade. It’s not like Charleston, nevertheless it’s positively much more than some other neighborhood in our hometown. Identical to homes with slightly little bit of shade, slightly bit extra risk-taking is the precise phrase, however just a bit bit extra of an open-minded vibe. Folks at all times ask me if the neighbors hated it. I by no means heard of anybody who hated it, however I’m certain somebody in all probability didn’t prefer it. I don’t know as a result of it’s pink. It’s a pink home, nevertheless it’s not the one pink home, I don’t suppose, is it? 

Emma: I don’t suppose it’s. No. It’s the one considered one of that specific pink, however no, I can consider one different that’s like a pink home and it’s the one which’s in heavy disrepair anyway. Anyway, there’s no less than one different pink one which I may consider. 

Elsie: And in addition pink is a historic house shade. It’s a extra widespread house shade from the times of previous, that’s additionally why I needed to do it. So anyway, I believed it was enjoyable. It was simply a possibility as a result of it’s very small. What do you name it? Like a bungalow-style home. So it simply type of made sense. It match prefer it felt good for our new house since it’s the clapboard and it’s already white, I actually simply can’t think about it some other shade. So I believe that I’m fairly certain it that can at all times hold it white. However who is aware of? By no means say by no means. However a possibility for portray on the outside is certainly the porch in the mean time. The porch must be repainted actually badly. It’s across the entrance steps space, once you first stroll up, it’s like actually chipping off. So I do know that’s considered one of our first initiatives that we have to do. So I discovered this essential shade known as Dorian Grey, so I used to be enthusiastic about utilizing that. You understand, I’ve my Dorian Grey factor. If I wanna do a impartial shade, or I may perform a little extra of a enjoyable shade, I don’t know.

Emma: Yeah. Didn’t you say lots of people advised you to color it blue, to inform the ghost to go away? 

Elsie: Okay. So it’s, it’s a Southern factor that in case you paint your porch ceiling blue. So once you look on Pinterest at porches, wraparound porches, and porch decorations, you’ll see plenty of porches with a painted blue ceiling, and now I type of know why. I don’t know if that’s the one purpose, or if some individuals possibly simply see it and so they’re like, oh, that’s a cute shade, I’ll do mine that means too. Yeah, however I initially don’t actually need a blue ceiling. However second of all, I’m not likely afraid of ghosts. So in case you see me portray my porch ceiling blue although, now you’ll know that one thing actually bizarre occurred. You’d be like, we have to ship her some flowers. 

Emma: She’d be like, it was between this and an exorcism. So I’m portray it blue. 

Elsie: Yeah. Our solar porch was really, the ceiling was painted a teal blue after we moved in. However we painted over it white simply to, I don’t know, I simply needed it to be all white. I simply didn’t wanna have an announcement ceiling in there. Yeah. Anyway, let’s keep targeted on the outside trigger that’s what this episode is about. 

Emma: Yeah. Properly, alongside portray exteriors, let’s speak about one other vital exterior factor that you simply paint typically, entrance doorways. 

Elsie: Okay. So the assertion entrance door is such a enjoyable matter, and I’m excited to speak about this. So, initially, I like assertion entrance doorways, I’ve had them in nearly all of my houses. I believe on my first house we did a basic black entrance door. After which after that, I used to be like we had a pink door after which we had a blue door, after which now we now have one other pink door after which we had a inexperienced door. So I like the assertion entrance door. I believe it’s very enjoyable. I simply suppose it’s good. However the one factor I’ll say is there’s this one home in our neighborhood proper now the place after I at all times attempt to combat, I’m like, oh, the assertion door doesn’t match the home although. You understand what I imply? So that you do need to mix it with what your own home already is. When you’re not gonna paint the entire home, you do need to type of settle for your own home for what it’s and choose a shade that’s cohesive with that, I believe. 

Emma: That’s what I believe too. I’ll say if it’s your own home and you haven’t any HOA in your again, do no matter you need. If it makes you content to color it, that one teal that you simply actually love, despite the fact that it doesn’t go along with the remainder of the home, that’s superb. Go for it. Yeah, to me it’s like type of a missed alternative after I see one which simply doesn’t, as a result of I’m like, there’s so many colours that may work and also you picked the one which doesn’t actually match. So it looks like this door doesn’t belong to this home, which is ok. It’s your own home, no matter. However I’m gonna go on my stroll and I’m gonna choose your entrance door. So simply know that’s occurring.

Elsie: In our new home, we now have a display screen door, so I would paint the entrance door, however I really feel prefer it gained’t actually be as a lot of a factor to have a look at from the skin due to the, it’s like a wooden display screen door, it’s like a really basic, like a southern door. I adore it, I believe it’s sensible as a result of it’s like mosquito land and stuff. I’m enthusiastic about portray the within of the entrance door. However yeah, I believe if I wanna have like a enjoyable assertion door, I would do like our little pottery shed within the yard. I would do a facet door, I would do one thing else, I believe.

Emma: Yeah, and we’ve had painted entrance doorways up to now too. In all probability my favourite was we had this yellow door on the primary house that Tray and I lived in collectively. And I painted it with my buddies sooner or later and it was actually enjoyable. So at present we simply have this sort of fashionable wooden door that has frosted panels and we simply received it from Lowe’s. It’s not likely something all that particular, to be sincere, nevertheless it appears to be like very nice. Our door earlier than had an enormous crack in it, the door that got here with the home and we simply weren’t actually in love with the fashion of it anyway. And like I mentioned, the window was tremendous cracked so we changed it with that. And I’m having them, every time they do the outside of the home, we’re type of matching the wooden. We’re including panels of wooden underneath a few of the home windows. Nearly like a planter field, nevertheless it’s not really a planter field cuz I’ve no inexperienced thumb in any respect. And I’ll by no means put vegetation in them as a result of they are going to simply die as a result of I don’t know what I’m doing. So it’s similar to a bit of wooden, however visually I believe it is going to learn type of like a planter field with out flowers and it simply matches the entrance door. Due to that, I’ve no plan to color our entrance door ever. I simply plan to maintain it the wooden that it’s and it appears to be like actually fairly. It’s like a very nice wooden and it’s been sealed so you possibly can actually see all of the wooden grain and it’s actually fairly. 

Elsie: However yeah, only for the file, we’re pro-statement door. Do choose one thing that likes vibes with your own home, however I believe it’s magical. I believe it’s a kind of enjoyable moments in life like one of many issues that householders get to try this’s actually particular.

Emma: Yeah. And in case you’re a seasonal wreath particular person, which I’m, then you definitely do have to think about your entrance door because the backdrop for all of your seasonal wreaths. So I might suppose that via. So be sure that it’s gonna go effectively together with your Halloween wreath and your Christmas wreath. Possibly you don’t care, however I do. 

Elsie: That’s how I make all of my house selections. I by no means decide with out pondering of the way it will look throughout Halloween and Christmas as a result of it’s so vital to me and I stretch them out for no less than an additional month every. Okay, the opposite factor I like for entrance doorways is selecting a classic knocker, I’ve talked about this earlier than. I selected one for my new home already. I select one for each house, and so they’re all type of not humorous, however they’ve a persona to them as a result of there are classic brass, titties. There are such a lot of totally different ones you could find. I believe our first one was a pineapple after which we had a butterfly at considered one of our BMBs and I keep in mind at Casey’s home I did a horseshoe and at my new home, I’m doing the bat. I’m doing a brass bat, it’s magical. It’s type of a enjoyable custom that I like to do like choosing the door knocker. 

Emma: Yeah, at my Harry Potter home in Florida, which we now not personal, however there’s an owl brass knocker as a result of you already know, Harry Potter. 

Elsie: Okay, so for home windows, initially, do you want shutters? Are you a shutter particular person? 

Emma: I like shutters. We don’t have them and I don’t really need them, however I like taking a look at them. 

Elsie: Lots of people have requested me if I might add shutters to our new home as a result of it type of appears to be like just like the film homes that I at all times put, that it type of appears to be like like each have black shutters. However I really suppose our home is just not meant to have shutters the scale of the home windows is I believe it’s greater than you suppose. So from what I’ve learn, the one solution to do shutters is to have them be like actual shutters that would actually shut and so they have correct {hardware} and so they’re not like only a ornament, they’re an actual working factor. With a purpose to do this, they might be large. So I simply don’t suppose that our home wants it or desires it. So at the moment, I’m nobody shutters, however I do love how they appear and throughout our neighborhood, there are such a lot of homes with fairly shutters and I believe it’s magical.

Emma: And you are feeling they need to be actual since you would need to use them such as you would need to pull them closed typically. 

Elsie: I imply, you already know, I like my Finish of the World books, so sure. But additionally I believe it’s simply form of like an authenticity factor for like individuals who like previous homes, it’s such as you wanna do it the best way it might’ve been finished in that period.

Emma: Yeah, I get that. Properly, as much as you. 

Elsie: I may inform you it’s silly. 

Emma: Yeah, I do. I don’t must say it, however of observe on the vacation home, the shutters on the entrance of the home, and on the entrance porch have been positively not actual. They have been positively simply nailed in place and I believed they seemed fairly good.

Elsie: I’m simply saying if I have been gonna do them I might wanna make them actual functioning shutters. 

Emma: Okay. Properly, that’s as much as you however I do suppose they might look fairly cool. So if the one solution to do it was faux ones, I’m voting in opposition to you, nevertheless it’s your own home. So clearly do no matter you need. 

Elsie: Have a look at it another time in an image, as a result of on the entrance window within the heart to the highest, there’s an oddly formed window and I’m simply unsure how it might work, like in case you simply wouldn’t put the shutters on all of the home windows or it simply type of looks like it might be slightly bit, I don’t know.

Emma: I’m pondering of it extra as purely an aesthetic factor and never you’re going to make use of them in any respect. That’s so we’re in all probability simply not pondering like we’re not on the identical web page since you like need to use them. In order that’s very totally different as a result of it’s like then they may need to be like large or oddly formed relying in your home windows and yeah, that sounds in all probability much more costly and doubtlessly problematic, however I’m simply pondering like cool ones that possibly have like moons carved in ’em or one thing. I don’t know. Or simply black wines. 

Elsie: So that you suppose I ought to put shutters on the entrance of the home? 

Emma: Yeah, I do, faux ones. 

Elsie: Subsequent time I speak to somebody in regards to the exterior I’ll ask some questions, I’m curious now. All proper, let’s speak about porches. Porches are every part to me. So I’ve already talked about this like 85 instances, however I promise you it’s gonna be 85 extra. At our new home, my dream is to make a porch that you could stroll all the best way round. A literal, all-the-way stroll across the porch. What do you name it, wraparound porch and you’ll really stroll all the best way round it, a few of it is going to have doorways, a few of it gained’t and a few of it will likely be sunrooms. One in every of it’s gonna be like an artwork room, a few of it will likely be porches. It’s so magical to me. So, yeah I like porches. In our first Nashville home, we had a sunroom and it was positively one of the vital stunning rooms in the home. It was very photogenic and it was very enjoyable to embellish. However because it was a 3 seasons room and also you couldn’t use it within the winter, it was type of a bummer a few of the years. So I discovered from that have that I might reasonably have similar to all the best way a porch, only a porch as you go on the market, you sit within the contemporary air, or if it’s a sunroom that’s closed in with home windows, I would like it to be like heated and cooled and be like part of the house. In order that’s a giant precedence for me now. Enjoyable issues about porches, so you are able to do swings, you are able to do slightly desk and chairs. You are able to do the daybed swing. What are a few of your favourite decorations for porches? 

Emma: Yeah. I like a swing. I like a daybed swing. Our porch is type of unusual in a means. It’s a correct porch nevertheless it’s numerous poured cement with a few bushes, like area the place the tree is rising out. It’s like a bonsai tree or one thing, I don’t actually know. And there’s not likely a spot to place a swing, however we used to at all times sit and swing with Oscar when he was a child at our final home. So I type of miss it, however I don’t even know if he would get pleasure from it anymore. Now he desires to be strolling, we now have his little bike out on the entrance porch, it’s tucked beneath the awning. And this little cozy coop automobile, he likes to get in that and stuff. So I don’t know if we’re gonna do much more to our entrance porch simply because there isn’t actually, it’s not numerous it’s lined. There’s only a small area that’s lined and it’s type of taken up by Oscar’s automobile and bike proper now. However we sit on the market loads proper now and eat dinner, Oscar loves being exterior typically. And so we’ll make dinner and take all of it exterior after daycare and simply sit on the market and eat and he’ll watch automobiles go by. And he likes to level out if it’s a automobile or a truck or no matter. At some point a trash truck honked at us as a result of he was waving and that was, I believe, essentially the most thrilling second of his life, he was so into it. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, how cute. Yeah. I like porches. So within the neighborhood, we’re transferring in Springfield, there are numerous porches which have string lights and I believe that’s actually charming. It’s not like Christmas lights, it’s all yr spherical. While you stroll round at evening, there’s simply numerous porches which can be lit up with string lights and so I believed that was actually candy. When you’ve got an opportunity to place a hearth in your porch, I believe that’s epic. Really a porch with a hearth it’s epic, it’s superb. I might like to do like a eating desk porch ultimately. I believe that’s actually thrilling for just like the again of the home.

Emma: What do you concentrate on, well-designed and inserting TVs on porches? What are your ideas? 

Elsie: I’m professional TV on a porch as a result of I simply suppose if it makes you utilize it extra, then it’s good. And I believe that there might need been a time in my life after I was snobby about TVs, however it isn’t now.

Emma: Yeah, I just about agree. Now we have no place for one, however I might completely put one simply to look at an episode of one thing and eat breakfast on our porch or one thing. Actually within the night, in the summertime it may be type of mosquito land, so then it’s a must to actually work out your plan for that. However in the course of the day, within the morning, it tends to be fairly good. 

Elsie: I believe it’s a good suggestion really. If this area requires it and it really works, possibly it might make you utilize your porch extra. I believe that’s crucial factor as a result of I’ve had porches that we use consistently, and I’ve had ones that we by no means used in any respect. And so I believe simply creating routines that make you constantly use it’s actually vital. Particularly proper once you first transfer in. So the following half is walkways. So I believe if in case you have an opportunity to replace walkways, driveways, issues like that, that may be an enormous improve. Recently, it’s springtime proper now, in order I’ve been driving round, I’ve seen so many individuals pouring driveways and I’m like, oh, good for you, it’s so cute. So my dream is to have a brick pathway, for the pathway that goes as much as the home after which the pathways that form of lead round within the again. I simply suppose that brick pathways are so cute.

Emma: Oh yeah. A brick pathway is a really magical, very secret backyard. So we now have just a few walkways, I suppose I’ve two issues. One is principally we now have these actually large, beautiful lavender bushes on our again, in between the way you enter our yard and the place the storage is, and final yr they weren’t completely blooming but, however final yr they smelled superb. We didn’t dwell in the home but, however we’d come to examine it loads. And yeah, they simply smelled superb, I don’t know if it’s like edible lavender or not, I’m not likely certain. I’m certain I may determine that out. However I did discover final yr that it had tons of bees and so I’m enthusiastic about that this yr. I’m slightly not sure if we’re gonna hold them as a result of I do suppose they scent superior. However Oscar is rather like, that’s a spot he’s at loads as a result of we go out and in of the yard on a regular basis as a result of he’ll wanna play within the yard after which we go within the entrance yard, after which you already know, backwards and forwards fairly a bit. So I’m just a bit involved in regards to the variety of bees I noticed. I don’t know if there’s one thing I ought to do for there to be much less bees. I believe bees are vital, so I don’t actually need to do something that essentially deters them as a result of clearly, they’re simply doing what bees do, however I don’t know, so I’m type of enthusiastic about that. I’m unsure what we’re gonna do that yr. They’re simply beginning to bloom, so we’ll see. But when Oscar and I each get stung a complete bunch, I’ll be like, okay, the place you’ve gotta do one thing.

Elsie: Possibly there are different vegetation or I wager our listeners will be capable to offer you some recommendation on that. That fascinating. 

Emma: Yeah, as a result of I don’t wanna do something to kill the bees or something like that. I’m simply pondering we’d transfer the bushes. Really, a contractor we labored with I already talked about, would completely take them and plant them at his home if we needed. So I used to be like, okay, I have already got somebody, they wouldn’t go to waste, however I’m like, effectively, I don’t know, we’ll see. One other factor I needed to say, that is considerably associated, nevertheless it’s simply an exterior factor, are we received slightly free library put in, we had a lifeless tree in our entrance yard and after we received it lower down, we advised them to depart like a four-foot stump and since you will get them to chop it means down and even grind the stump and I mentioned, no, depart it 4 foot as a result of I’m gonna put slightly free library on high of it. So we now have slightly free library and I’ve seen that individuals within the neighborhood are utilizing it fairly a bit. I’ve gotten numerous books out of there for Oscar. Each time I put in books, I at all times discover how shortly they go and it’s at all times the romance novels that go the quickest and I adore it. And I’ve a lot to place in there so heads up neighborhood and proper by our little free library we’ve additionally began to make what I name a fairy backyard, nevertheless it’s principally little ceramic animals that I discover at thrift shops and Oscar and I put them on the market and he simply likes to play with them after we’re on the market and so they’re very breakable. He’s damaged one earlier than as a result of he threw it onto the sidewalk and it cracked and broke and it’s superb as a result of we’re exterior. So it’s not like inside when glass breaks or one thing, they’re not glass, they’re ceramic. However we now have a monkey and a few canines and a cat and a fish and an owl and when he sees the owl he’ll go, who, who and it’s actually cute. In order that’s our little fairy backyard, I’d actually wish to make it much more aesthetic and cute sooner or later. However in the mean time it’s similar to stuff that Oscar likes and he strikes them round and performs with them whereas we’re on the market and it’s simply enjoyable. Simply makes it slightly vacation spot the place we are able to stroll on the market and play with him slightly after which go do one thing else and at his age that’s nice. 

Elsie: Magical. Okay, let’s speak about landscaping for a second, as a result of I really feel like that could be a actually vital a part of curb attraction, it may be a giant improve. So on our final house we in all probability did essentially the most landscaping we’ve finished as a result of I do know this story earlier than, however after we received our home painted I used to be like, this appears to be like nice. When ought to we take pictures? And the home painter was like, effectively, I believe you must remove the entire landscaping and do all new, and I used to be like, What, I had by no means been advised such a giant process earlier than and it seems he was proper after we did do this job. I keep in mind on the time it felt like such a giant change. It turned out actually cute. There’s like numerous little tiny boxwood-looking bushes after which we did hydrangeas and we did panes for spring after which we had a spot to do one new tree, so we did like a ginkgo tree as a result of I like the yellow leaves at fall time and it was a really magical expertise and I can’t wait to do it once more. I believe it opened up my thoughts loads to how worthwhile it landscaping may be as a result of it feels type of daunting and it feels very costly and it is extremely costly. However when you’ve finished it and seen what a giant improve it may be, I believe it felt much more value it to me.

Emma: I actually felt that means even about portray the outside of your own home. Once I was youthful, I believed, oh, I wouldn’t spend the cash on that I’d reasonably spend the cash I’ve to repair up my home on the within as a result of I’m at all times inside. And I believe in case you’re on a decent price range, like yeah, that is sensible, I get it. However after you’ve painted the outside or no matter you’ve finished, after you’ve finished one thing to the outside, then you definitely see what a giant distinction it makes and the sensation it provides you once you pull as much as your own home. And in addition in case you spend numerous time in your entrance porch or your yard or no matter, then yeah, you simply type of come to worth it differently, or I’ve, possibly not everybody, however I do. So I may positively see that with landscaping, we type of have current stuff from the earlier proprietor, plenty of bushes and bushes which can be coming again to life now and we’re hibernating all this winter. This yr is admittedly similar to seeing if every part comes again, what it’s wish to attempt to keep it if we’re not in a position to, like what are we gonna do in another way to verify it’s nonetheless enticing, like are we gonna exchange this or that? In order that’s actually all we’re doing this yr is attempting to determine like, what is that this deal with? What are these bushes? Will they keep alive this summer time? I don’t know. So we’re simply gonna do our greatest and see. 

Elsie: Completely. Yeah. I believe giving it slightly little bit of time to similar to see what blooms your first spring is admittedly good as a result of it might be shocking. When you first see it when every part’s lifeless, there may be numerous perennials that you simply don’t even learn about. Yeah. It’s very enjoyable although, I believe in case you’ve by no means finished it earlier than and also you’re gonna do it in your first time, my recommendation is to simply be inspired, and perform a little bit at a time. It’s value it for me, at first it felt prefer it was within the boring money-to-spend class for home stuff. However ultimately, I type of got here to understand it and adore it, so now I’m excited to do extra. The following one is the again patio. So I believe that your again porch can actually be the center of your private home. My favourite means to make use of it or the best way for it to be is that if your kitchen will let loose into your backspace. I believe that’s like superb. That’s the way it’s been at our house in Tennessee and it simply made it actually cozy as a result of it’s your outside kitchen is subsequent to your indoor kitchen and your outside eating is subsequent to your kitchen and it simply all type of matches collectively very well. So in case you’re planning an area from scratch, I might actually advocate that. Clearly not each home is gonna have that. Our first home in Tennessee had this, it’s so random, however the kitchen was within the very entrance of the home. There was no attainable means that it may ever join in any means and it was at all times behind my thoughts after I lived there. Anyway, let’s speak about a few concepts for how one can improve your again patio. So I simply received new porch furnishings for our new home and I didn’t know, so have you learnt the model Trex, they make like decking that you simply by no means have to interchange. So I came upon that they make tables and I received a kind of tables. I’m actually enthusiastic about it as a result of I don’t know what number of instances up to now, which is my very own fault, however I might get a really cheap wooden desk from Goal or one thing the place I might put a desk on the market that basically shouldn’t be on the market after which a season or two later it’s like utterly trashed.

Emma: I would purchase a kind of then as a result of we at present don’t have a again patio and we don’t actually have any lined space in our yard in any respect. And we simply don’t actually have the cash to do like an enormous pour cement and massive awning and we don’t actually have the price range for that proper now. However I might actually like to put a desk again there as a result of Oscar and I’ll sit again there and eat dinner and Trey too, it’s not like Trey’s not round. The routine is I choose him up from college, so we eat not likely even dinner, however like snacks and it’s simply me and him after which Trey comes house. However anyway, this in all probability feels like my husband’s by no means house. I’m like, no, he’s. He simply comes house about an hour later than me. However yeah, possibly I’ll get a kind of tables now that you simply’re mentioning it as a result of I’m like, I want one thing that may sit out within the solar and the climate and gained’t get utterly ruined as a result of I simply haven’t been motivated to purchase one thing. So I’m like, it’s gonna get utterly ruined in a single season as a result of there’s simply no cowl for it, in order that’s an concept. 

Elsie: I’m type of on the level in my life the place I’m like, I’m not shopping for outside furnishings if it’s not weatherproof and I’m excited to see, I suppose I’ll need to see it for a few seasons to see how effectively it wears and like how it’s to scrub up within the spring and issues like that. However yeah, it’s value it to me. I like outside furnishings, however in case you don’t have a lined area, then I believe it’s a must to be much more intentional in regards to the stuff you select to place out. 

Emma: You wanna hear our humorous factor about our yard? Again patio. We don’t have a patio as I discussed, we’re getting one for Oscar’s birthday in June, we’re getting him a sandbox as a result of he loves enjoying within the dust and I’m slightly bored with it. So we’re getting the sandbox so he can play in that sandbox as a lot as he desires. And I’m gonna get the sort that has a canopy as a result of we don’t have any cowl again there, so it may be lined up after we’re not enjoying with it. However I’m actually excited. I believe he’s gonna adore it. So I’m actually enthusiastic about it. 

Elsie: That’s a enjoyable concept. I like that. Let’s speak in regards to the yard for slightly bit. Oh my gosh. Yard. So I’ve discovered a lot, I really feel like, so our first home in Tennessee had this large yard. All it had in it was playhouses. So it was just about like an acre of yard that you simply simply mow and I discovered from that have that I needed a extra concise yard, that was helpful. It’s nice to have a giant yard if it’s helpful, however I didn’t wanna simply have an enormous yard that was similar to a garden mowing invoice or no matter. After which in our present house, we now have really a fairly small yard, our Tennessee house, feels prefer it’s largely the swimming pool. Yeah. After which there are a few facet yards which can be slightly bit awkward to get to. In order that they actually don’t get used a lot, they don’t get performed a lot. So if our children play exterior, they normally play within the entrance of the home, like within the driveway and stuff, and within the again within the pool space. In all probability one of many smallest yards we’ve had. Not numerous play area. I felt like we received a lot out of it as a result of it was well-planned. It had an outside eating desk. We had the cornhole recreation, which our children love. We had a fireplace pit, which they love. It was very helpful and useful. So it taught me that we don’t actually need a giant yard, we simply want a extremely well-planned yard. So with our new house, I’m attempting to be very cautious within the planning. So yeah, I’ve been getting my swimming pool quote. Everybody, cross your fingers for me as a result of I’m terrified. I simply suppose that once you dwell in the midst of the nation, swimming swimming pools are costlier as a result of they’re simply not as widespread and there aren’t as many firms to select from and it’s simply not as aggressive. However yeah, we’re planning for that. A fireplace pit, I’d wish to have some type of play area, however I wanna make certain it’s gonna get used loads. And I’d wish to have some type of yard that’s open to run in, however not loads, similar to the correct quantity. So yeah, that’s my plan in the mean time. I’ve redrawn it like 100 instances so simply to encourage anybody who’s transferring to a brand new area or planning your yard, you possibly can’t overthink it. Actually, actually take into consideration like how every part can join collectively as a result of it’s so significantly better to plan it time and again earlier than you’ve spent any cash than to start out doing it and have regrets. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. And yeah, we don’t have any large plans for our yard in the mean time. We type of must get our fence changed, nevertheless it’s gonna be like 20 to $30,000. So, we’ve type of been placing it off. Now we have a fence and it’s superb, however our canine retains discovering methods to flee and he by no means runs away. He similar to waits on the entrance door however he’ll type of terrorize different people who find themselves strolling with their canines as a result of he’s not nice with different canines, that’s not good. So we’re simply attempting to suppose that via. We even have his dream, I might like to get a golf cart. Our neighborhood’s very windy and it’s an amazing place for youths to journey their bikes and stuff. Folks don’t actually drive via tremendous quick, it’s simply very windy. So anyway, you might positively drive a golf cart round our neighborhood and get to the neighborhood pool from our home. You might positively stroll, however it might take some time and in case you’re with slightly child and you’ve got a bunch of stuff like pool stuff, you’re not gonna do this. So I type of thought the golf cart might be nice for going to the pool in the summertime with Oscar. I even have this dream with the golf cart that possibly I may do some type of spooky hay journey or some type of spooky, everybody hops on the little prepare, we’re going trick-or-treating across the neighborhood with the golf cart and it may seem like a monster. I may enhance, I don’t know. I don’t precisely know, however I simply really feel like there’s one thing there that might be enjoyable however our downside is we don’t know the place to retailer the golf cart. Now we have a two-car storage and we every have a automobile. So our storage is just not actually large enough that we may put the golf cart in there.

So we don’t actually know the place it might go, as a result of we wouldn’t need it to simply be sitting out on a regular basis. So it must go within the yard someplace, nevertheless it must be one thing no less than lined, if not slightly construction. In order that’s form of the place we cease is we’re like, we don’t understand how the golf cart’s gonna get taken care of, be saved when it’s not in use. So then we simply type of dunno what to do with that. I’ll determine it out sometime. I’m gonna be driving round and the golf cart’s gonna be dressed like a monster for Halloween. I don’t know. In order that we are able to trick or deal with.

Elsie: Preserve pondering in that route. I positively suppose it’s a cute concept. The very last thing is a mailbox. So I had a mid-century mailbox in considered one of our homes, and I keep in mind, I felt prefer it was such a splurge on the time. And now we now have an antiquey trying mailbox at our new home. I simply suppose mailboxes, like why not make them match the persona of your private home? I believe that’s very candy. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. Ours is this sort of steel and swings open proper exterior our entrance door and I adore it. I don’t plan to interchange it in the mean time, however I’ll say although, you understand how once you put mail in in your mail service pickup, you flip up a flag normally. A typical mailbox has a flag.

Elsie: Do it’s a must to use a detailed pin on the skin or one thing? 

Emma: Yeah, it has to have one thing like that. So I went on-line and I used to be like, effectively there’s gotta be some resolution for this, I’ve seen mailboxes like this earlier than. I’ve by no means had one, however there’s one thing and so I seemed round and principally what it has proper now could be this little tiny plastic flag that you could push out or shut and it’s on the mailbox with a command strip and it’s labored. Nevertheless it requires you to very fastidiously open and shut it and the mail service is closing it and I don’t know her or him, however they’re doing nothing improper, it’s not nice. It’s not an amazing resolution, the command strip, as a result of it’s additionally like instructions strips are nice. When you’ve heard me say it when you’ve heard it a thousand instances. I like command strips. However they’re not at all times nice outdoor. It may well get very chilly right here, with freezing temperatures. It’s additionally very moist at instances. And this summer time it’ll get actually scorching. So I’m simply looking for one other resolution and principally on Amazon, I noticed these little magnets that like say, oh, cute, choose up the mail. And so that you simply put the magnet on the skin. Of the steel after which they’ll simply put it on the within as soon as they’ve picked up the mail. And so I purchased a kind of and it hasn’t are available in but, however I’m actually enthusiastic about it. It has slightly image of a mail truck on it. It’s a tiny bit tacky, however I simply really feel prefer it’s gonna be a very good resolution for the kind of mailbox we now have as a result of there’s been numerous instances I wanted one thing to exit and the mail service didn’t understand I had one thing within the field and it didn’t exit and that’s type of a bummer. 

Elsie: That’s tremendous annoying. That’s a cute concept. Okay, effectively good. We’ll need to hyperlink that within the present notes as a result of I wager there’s somebody on the market, that’s additionally the proper resolution. 

Emma: Yeah, somebody ought to begin promoting his on Etsy in the event that they haven’t already as a result of they’re actually cute and so they’re similar to magnets.

Elsie: Okay. The final a part of adorning the outside of your private home that I needed to speak about is Halloween and Christmas. I believe that planning forward for that is important. I’ve mentioned this many instances in case you’re landscaping your own home or no matter you’re doing, it’s a must to take into consideration how the Christmas lights are gonna work together with that and the skeletons and all of that. So one thing fascinating, our buddy Sarah from the Hen’s Papaya, received everlasting Christmas lights placed on her home. Like that keep on all yr spherical. Did you see that? 

Emma: That’s what I’ve. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh. Do you have got them too? 

Emma: I simply don’t flip ’em on all yr.

Elsie: That’s cool. Are you able to see them? 

Emma: Yeah, you possibly can see them like so far as like in case you’re standing exterior of my home like they’re not turned on, you simply see there are bulbs. 

Elsie: You simply don’t care?

Emma: No, why would I care? 

Elsie: That’s actually interesting to me as a result of I simply don’t wanna pay somebody to place them up and down yearly. However I do need them yearly. 

Emma: Ours is just not very elaborate. I really feel like I can flip them on all winter. They don’t spell out Merry Christmas or Ho Ho Ho or something like that. So in case you needed one thing actually elaborate, possibly it wouldn’t be pretty much as good of an answer. Yeah. I believe most individuals depart their Christmas lights up all yr. They only don’t flip ’em on. 

Elsie: What, what actually? 

Emma: If it’s not like a coloured factor. They don’t depart like Santa Sleigh up on the roof all yr, however different issues.

Elsie: I’ve by no means needed to do a ballot greater than I do proper now as a result of I assumed that everybody simply took them down.

Emma: Possibly we should always do a ballot. Possibly I’m improper. I don’t know. I may completely be improper. 

Elsie: I’m very to listen to now, I wanna hear. Please write into us at if in case you have robust emotions or experiences about everlasting Christmas lights. Is there a means that I can depart my Christmas lights up eternally? Nevertheless it gained’t look dangerous in the summertime. That’s what I wanna know. I’m very inquisitive about this topic. Okay, so that is how I plan Halloween and Christmas. I print off slightly image. You might additionally simply do that in your telephone, an image of your exterior, after which I simply draw on it. I simply draw on it as many instances as I would like and simply type of plan out like what are all of the alternative ways we may put up the decorations? There are many alternative ways you are able to do it, it’s so enjoyable. One in every of my favourite issues is driving round at Christmas and like taking a look at how everybody else does all their Christmas lights, the magic of planning it out, and being artistic. It’s a lot enjoyable. 

Emma: Think about driving round on a golf cart with scorching chocolate, taking a look at all of the neighbor’s Christmas lights.

Elsie: Cease it. Okay, so I’ve to simply say in Jessica Simpson’s memoir, she was speaking about trick or coaching with golf carts, and now I simply suppose that you simply’re like so fancy. 

Emma: Doesn’t it sound like a star factor? I used to be simply complaining about how a lot cash we have to exchange our canine fence after which I’m like, however we’re gonna get this golf cart. You possibly can’t inform my priorities are in every single place. 

Elsie: Okay. Do you wanna learn the listener’s query? 

Emma: Sure, this query was emailed to us from Janie. She says, just lately the pipes burst in my New York Metropolis residence. I’m younger, single, and dwell alone. The development firm employed by the residence administration firm was attempting to simply paint over mildew and water injury. I needed to regularly combat for the job to be finished appropriately, for sheetrock to get replaced, and I felt dangerous about it, like responsible for asking for the job to be finished appropriately. So what are your suggestions, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with points like this, particularly as a younger lady? 

Elsie: All proper, I wanna begin off by saying, I simply wrote a put up just lately about the best way to rent a contractor on A Stunning Mess. So we’ll hyperlink to that, and it has a complete part about coping with sexism as a result of coping with sexism and other people speaking all the way down to you, sadly, on this business, on this state of affairs is admittedly dangerous. And I believe that your expertise is quite common. Truthfully, it’s unhappy, however not shocking to listen to that. So yeah, I believe that studying the best way to arise for your self and to say your self and likewise get what you need finished, most significantly are all actually good abilities. Simply coping with the preliminary shock that individuals simply don’t hear or attempt to speak you out of what you’re asking for or attempt to speak all the way down to you, it’s irritating. So do you have got any good suggestions Em? 

Emma: Properly, it feels like Janie did precisely what she wanted to do, which was hold bothering them till it will get finished the best way it must get finished and once you’re speaking about mildew, that’s not a joke. That may mess together with your well being, so this isn’t similar to, oh, the colour’s barely totally different than I believed and I would like you to repaint it at no cost. It’s like, no, no, no, no, no mildew is a severe subject. And in addition you probably did an enormous favor to whoever owns your constructing as a result of now there’s not gonna be mildew rising eternally. Feels like she did what she wanted to do, nevertheless it feels like for Janie and positively, for me, I nearly have to simply give myself slightly pep speak after I’ve moments like that the place I’m like, hey, it was okay that you simply did that. It was okay that you simply saved asking them it was okay that you simply advised them no. Typically I actually do need to nearly speak out loud to myself and be like, it’s superb that you simply known as them again and mentioned this isn’t acceptable, you weren’t unkind. You weren’t imply, you simply mentioned what wanted to be mentioned and that’s okay. Typically I believe that must be one thing in your routine in case you’re the type of one that feels actually responsible advocating for your self, which I really feel at instances, so I positively get that. After which in case you’re ever like not sure, ask your folks, ask your mother and father, whoever you’re shut with, in case you’re like, am I being an excessive amount of right here? Test-in as a result of your folks will inform you straight away. If I had a buddy be like, do you suppose it’s okay for them to color over mildew? I’d be like, no, you must name them immediately since you can’t be residing in a home with mildew like that. You understand that it’s there. Typically we dwell with mildew and we don’t understand it, however you already know. If I had a buddy ask me, I’d be like, no, you completely ought to name, it’s good that you simply’re calling. It’s good that you simply’re checking in. Maintain your self. That is vital in your well being. So possibly attain out to buddies, relations, or whoever you must simply be reassured that the factor you’re asking for is totally acceptable to ask for, and so long as you’re not being unkind, like calling somebody a reputation, or threatening them indirectly. These are issues that aren’t acceptable, however asking for what you want even a number of instances or considerably forcefully, not yelling, however considerably forcefully is completely acceptable and a really grownup and really regular factor to do.

Elsie: Yep. And actually, if you wish to do numerous renovations in your life, it’s one thing that it’s best to hone as a talent as a result of it’s one thing that you simply’ll come again to again and again. All righty. It’s time for our favourite half, A joke or a reality. All proper. Right here’s gold. Gold. Do you have got a joke for us immediately?

Goldie: The place does a ghost like to buy? A boooo-tique.

Elsie: Good job. You probably did nice. Okay, thanks a lot for listening. When you’ve got any questions or podcast requests for future episodes. E-mail us anytime at, or you possibly can name our voicemail and depart us a message at 417-893-0011. We’ll be again subsequent week with a deep dive into hobbies.

Rafael Gomes de Azevedo
Rafael Gomes de Azevedo
He started his career as a columnist, contributing to the staff of a local blog. His articles with amusing views on everyday situations in the news soon became one of the main features of the current editions of the blog. For the divergences of thought about which direction the blog would follow. He left and founded three other great journalistic blogs,, and With a certain passion for writing, holder of a versatile talent, in addition to coordinating, directing, he writes fantastic scripts quickly, he likes to say that he writes for a select group of enthusiasts in love with serious and true writing.


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